Throughout the process of starting my business Miss Digital Media, I’ve had big mindset matters to deal with and overcome, my fear of failure and my fear of success, I was hugely lacking in confidence and self-belief. My general fear and lack mindset was stopping me from stepping out of my comfort zone and being visible to potential clients and customers. I felt paralysed. My mind was foggy, and I spent most days feeling stuck, like I was getting nowhere. Perhaps if I’d reached out for help from a coach such as Faye, I could have avoided such turmoil!
However, after doing a lot of work on my mindset, I pushed myself to identify my limiting thoughts and re-frame them. I have worked hard to clarify my mission and purpose in my business. I began looking in to the questions of why am I doing this business? Who am I helping? What problems am I solving? Where are my customers and how can I find them? This process has really helped me to make progress, all be it slower that I would like, and I’m still revisiting these questions as I continue on my business development journey.
I was meditating, and doing visualisations, and ideas about this and that kept coming to my mind, I was struggling to focus, and was bouncing between positive and negative emotions, depression and anxiety.
I felt so lost one day, just totally overwhelmed with it all, that I decided that I needed to focus on writing my first book ‘Boost your Brand with Books’. I wanted to do something practical and constructive, in the hope that stepping away from social media and all the ‘stuff and noise’ would give my mind a break from constantly comparing myself to others and the deep feelings of inadequacy.
Around the time I had also been taking part in various online training where I had gained lots of tips and advice about online marketing and ideal customers. These two things made the penny drop for me about my mission, my branding and who my ideal customers were – Coaches, Consultants and Creatives! I felt like things were starting to fall into place. It also made me realise that I know more than I give myself credit for! This was a bit of a turning point for me.
All these little steps have made up into big steps and I have taken positive action. I am continually working on my mindset, developing my branding and increasing my visibility. It’s all part of my journey in fulfilling my mission – which is to help others with the digital media skills and expertise that I have to share. More specifically to provide branding, design, online marketing support and training to self-employed businesses owners like myself, who don’t have the time skills or expertise to produce, publish and promote their content. I think that my mindset really held me back, and once I’d started doing the ground work on my mission and purpose things have started to become clearer, enabling me to have the confidence to be visible. Yay!
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Unfortunately, there are many times in our lives when stress creeps in and causes great angst. Life is busy and work, kids, school and responsibilities can seem overwhelming at times.
74% of UK adults have felt so stressed at some point over the last year they felt overwhelmed or unable to cope.
81% of women said this compared to 67 percent of men. 83% of 18-24 year-olds said this compared to 65 percent of people aged 55 and over. (Source: mentalhealth.org.uk)
Do you feel that your stress is getting you down?
Here are some tips to help deal with stress and its after-effects.
Stress has become a major cause of anxiety and panic attacks. If not dealt with, it can have an incapacitating effect on your life. More often than not, most people with A-type personalities are prime candidates for stress induced symptoms. The perfectionism they seek in everything they do never quite measures up to their expectations. This is not a perfect world; and it’s time those who live in it realize they aren’t perfect either, and nor should they be.
Most people deal with stress in different ways; either they ignore the initial problem which caused it; retreat within themselves or fall apart. However, those who recognize the signs nip it in the bud before it completely takes over. Using simple exercises can relieve the onset of stress. For example: While sitting at your desk at work, breathing exercises can bring you back to a calm state. Going outside for some fresh air also helps.
Walking or running for 20 minutes can release endorphins which relieve stress. Listening to classical music lowers the blood pressure and brings calm within.
Sometimes, however, stress reveals itself in other ways. Light headedness, an inability to focus, feelings of pressure and palpitations are all symptoms of stress. Moreover, continued stress can produce anxiety, panic, and the fight or flight syndrome. Here is one such case of how stress can simply overwhelm and, in some cases, debilitate.
A secretary was called into her administrator’s office, which was quite large and comfortable. As she was taking dictation, she suddenly found it hard to breathe; began to lose focus; and a queasy feeling in her stomach emerged. She could no longer concentrate and left the room suddenly.
Unbeknown to her, she had just experienced an anxiety attack brought on by stress. However, while there was nothing stressful going on at the time, she later identified the cause. An unpleasant thought had entered her mind while she was taking dictation, causing fear to take over forcing her to leave the office.
Upon further examination, it was determined the stress in her home life simply became too much, and filtered its way in to her working day.
This happens all too often and vice versa, where work stresses can filter in to your family life causing arguments. health issues and in some cases total disconnection from your loved ones!
If stress is getting you down, examine the cause. Determine the origin and discuss it with a professional or a loved one. Stress, if not acted upon, can cause serious health problems. Avoid it wherever and whenever you can.
You can learn more about reducing stress in our Personal Transformation Mastery self-study course.
If you need any further help reducing stress or creating healthier habits to move you towards success you can email me or take a look at the services we offer here. Using the FLOAT system we take our clients from Chaos to Calm in both life and business and help you create the success you deserve.
You can also come and join us over on Facebook in The Positivity Hub, where we talk all things, mindset, confidence and positivity.