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5 Tips to Change your Negative Thought Patterns

5 Tips to Change your Negative Thought Patterns

“Change your thoughts to change your life!”

 

Now you might be surprised at how often during the day you focus on a negative thought. The average person has 50,000 to 70,000 thoughts per day. So it’s no surprise that this can get out of hand pretty quickly.

The best thing you can do to stop negative thoughts, is try and become more aware of those times that you are thinking in a negative manner.

Your life is a reflection of everything you have programmed into your mind over the course of your life up until now. You have been programmed, every second of every day from the very minute that you are born. You’re being programmed with both your internal thoughts, and your external thoughts. Those internal thoughts are the ones that drive you. And in a nutshell, you are what you think you are.

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Now your unconscious beliefs and thought patterns, literally shape the whole world around you, each and every second. Much like a broken record, your thoughts get stuck on what your problems are. And you can then lose the ability to break out of this negative cycle. This never ending cycle becomes your way of life. So you literally think yourself into creation. This then becomes the song that you sing, and the dance that you dance when you’re stuck in a cycle of despair. When we’re stuck in this cycle, all we can really do and all you’re actually really doing is expanding the presence and giving more power to that despair. You’re tightening its grip on you until it gets to a point where your mind is controlling you, when what we want to do is we want to totally flip it so that you are in control of your mind.

That brings me nicely on to my five quick tips to help you change your thoughts – You can watch the video here!

Tip 1 – Is to identify those automatic negative thoughts that keep coming up again and again. Because your thoughts are directly linked to your feelings and your behaviours as a result of those feelings. So, your thoughts influence how you feel, which influences how you behave, so listening and writing down your negative thought patterns can help increase your awareness. The very first step to anything we do is becoming more aware and writing things down so we’re getting them out of our minds and onto paper. It’s one of the simplest but most effective ways that we can bring these thoughts in to your awareness. So list down those thoughts that keep coming up for you, just simply write them down.

Tip 2 – Is explore the cause of that negative thought process or pattern. These could even relate to your childhood. This could be stuff that has been programmed from such a young age, potentially from your parents. Your parents have always wanted to protect you so there will be certain things that they would have said to you when you were younger, such as, don’t talk to strangers, we all get taught stranger danger when we are younger and that keeps us safe, and it’s really really important to know that as children. But as we enter our adult lives and we start to go out and about and we start to meet new people, we start a new job, we’re in business and go networking or we’re wanting to build a wider circle of friends, we have to start getting comfortable with talking to people we don’t know. And this completely goes against that belief that we have been taught not to speak to strangers. And there’s so many different things like that, so we need to catch these thoughts to become aware of them to explore where they come from.

Tip 3 – Is to keep a record of those negative thoughts and try and come up with words or phrases that counteract it. So if we go back to where we might say you can’t do something. In my house, I teach my children not to use the words, I can’t, because the evidence shows that every time they tell themselves they can’t do something, there will have been another time when they have said it and proved themselves wrong and this happens every time, so now we use ‘I’ll give it a go‘ because let’s face it, how do we know if we can do something or not, unless we give it a go. I don’t tend to use the words I’ll try because I find that a bit wishy washy. But if I say to myself or my children say to themselves, I’ll give it a go. It makes you feel good, it’s an empowering kind of statement, it totally changes your state, and how you feel about something than saying, I can’t.

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Tip 4 – is to use a tool such as NLP, or affirmations to help you think more positively. Now, through my series of videos, all of the videos that I create, are all to do with using my coaching and NLP techniques so if you subscribe to my You Tube channel to watch all my other videos, you’ll start to learn a lot more of these techniques to help you create more success in life but also to help you change the way you think and start believing in yourself more. List at least 10 negative thoughts that you’re having a day. This takes a little bit of time but as does everything. If you want anything to change. You have to practice. Repetition Repetition Repetition, the brain loves repetition. Now turn those thoughts on their head and creating a statement that better supports you .

Tip 5 –  is chunking or breaking large amounts of information down into smaller pieces. Now sometimes our negative thoughts can be big thoughts they can be those ones that are ingrained from years and years of that negative repetition. And in order to reframe them and change them into a more positive, we may have to chunk them down. It’s like with any goal or anything that we’re trying to achieve, if you try and deal with something that is too big, all in one go. You’re going to get to a point where you’re banging your head against a brick wall, you’ll feel like you’re failing and can’t do it It sends you into overwhelm, so rather than carrying on and dealing with it. You give up. So, pick that bigger thought apart into smaller ones and deal with those smaller ones. Once you’ve done that you can chunk it back up, so that you can see the bigger picture of what it was that’s going on.

Practice these tips often until it becomes so natural that you can do it automatically in minutes. Use a journal to help if needs be. I have my own personal journal that you can purchase here.

Faye Cox CoachingBELIEVING IN YOU UNTIL YOU DO TOO! If you’d like some support so you too can start believing in yourself, you can have a chat with me here

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3 Confidence Building Tips to Increase Your Pricing

3 Confidence Building Tips to Increase Your Pricing

There’s not a business owner out there who doesn’t want to increase their pricing!

By building self confidence in this area, you can start charging what you’re worth.

Sometimes consultants and other service providers are hesitant though to charge a fair rate for their services. Is this you?

Maybe you feel that the services you provide are so basic that you really can’t justify charging much or anything at all for them.

Perhaps you feel that you don’t have the knowledge or experience that other business owners have.

Thus, you hesitate to charge fair rates because of a lack of self confidence. This is natural (especially for new business owners). However, what you know and do has real value.

To stay in business, you need to charge a fair price for all your services. Fair means fair to the client but also fair to you. It’s also important to know who your target audience is so that you can make sure you’re pricing your services according to your potential clients budget.

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You can easily enjoy increased fees when you boost confidence and improve self esteem.

1. Don’t Take Your Skills for Granted

First of all, we tend to take our assets for granted. If you are an expert bookkeeper and good with numbers, you may feel it’s easy to do the work you do. Yes, it’s easy for you but not for others, so remember that.

You may have an aptitude for what you do. You may have a gift that others don’t have. Perhaps, through hard work and applying yourself, you have developed a marketable skill.

Second, even if someone were fairly good with numbers, it might not be a good use of time for that person to do the bookkeeping. By outsourcing this work, time can be more productively spent on other activities crucial to their business.

Bookkeeping may seem pretty basic but if you ask your accountant to do it for you, he’s going to charge you extra. Why? It takes his (or his staff’s) time.

Your services may also improve your client’s bottom line. That being the case, your client is profiting from your services.

So, by realistically evaluating the value of your skills and other assets, you can boost confidence for increased fees.

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2. Increased Fees Despite Inexperience

Just because there are people more knowledgeable and experienced than you, doesn’t mean that you can’t charge for what you can do.

Sometimes you might feel inadequate because you know you are still learning. You realise that you don’t know everything there is to know about your field. Remember no-one expects you to know everything. You’re human, as they are. It’s more important to have the resources around you to find out what you don’t know than it is to actually know it all.

We’re all still learning! Many people are out there charging more than you who actually have less knowledge and experience than you – WHY? – because they have done the work to improve confidence around their pricing and self worth.

If you know some things that your client doesn’t and you can help him improve his business, then you can offer a valuable service. An expert is the person who knows more than everyone else in the average room. So, you could be in a room of 6 people and you would be the expert in something.

Never under-estimate the value of your services. Again, self confidence can lead you to easily enjoy increased fees.

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3. Increased Fees for Additional Services

Many feel that their clients wouldn’t pay extra for certain additional services offered. Is this you?

How do you know? Have you even asked your current clients or potential clients? Always ask your clients and ideal clients what they want and what services they would find valuable. So many businesses owners get this the wrong way around. By asking these questions you can make sure that you’re delivering what they actually want and know that they will pay your price for giving them that much needed value.

Always think about how your services can help improve the profitability of your client’s business if you’re targeting B2B, or know what they’re true pain points are if you’re targeting B2C?

Selling value-added services is one way to obtain an edge over your competitors. For example, a web designer who is knowledgeable about search engine optimisation could help increase their client’s targeted web traffic which could result in increased sales and profits.

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In summary: Don’t take your skills for granted. Lack of experience doesn’t mean that you have nothing to offer. Charge for all your services and Yes, confidence building and building self esteem will definitely result in increased fees for you.

For further support in confidence building you can either book a call with me or grab your free guide ’12 Ways to Step in to Your Confidence’.